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Advices posted during the month of October 2005
Negative Emotions > Depression > Advice on Depression
A student came to see Rinpoche at Vajrapani Buddhist Center in California, with depression problems. She had not seen a psychiatrist. Rinpoche asked the student whether she was depressed regularly, every month or according to some cycle. She...
Negative Emotions > Depression > Advice on Depression
Rinpoche spoke with a student who explained that difficulties with depression and mental illness ran in her family.
Negative Emotions > Depression > Advice on Depression
Rinpoche heard that an old student, who had been battling depression intermittently for some time, had recently lapsed into a severe depression. Rinpoche wrote him the following letter, unsolicited.
Negative Emotions > Various Emotions > Handling Criticism
Rinpoche gave the following advice to a benefactor who was receiving a lot of criticism publicly, to the point where he was contemplating suing for libel.
Negative Emotions > Various Emotions > Handling Criticism
Rinpoche gave the following advice to an airline stewardess who was receiving a lot of criticism and harm.
Negative Emotions > Depression > Feeling Suicidal
Rinpoche heard that a student in Hong Kong wanted to commit suicide. He sent her the following message, and later, she abandoned her idea.
Negative Emotions > Depression > Feeling Suicidal
A student brought a friend who had contemplated suicide while depressed to see Rinpoche. Rinpoche gave some advice directly at the time, and the next day sent the following additional suggestions in a letter:
Negative Emotions > Various Emotions > Fears
A student's car had broken down on a busy highway in California. She sat stalled in the fast lane as cars speeded past her. Overwhelmed by fear of death, she managed to recite aloud the six-session guru yoga and Tara’s mantra, and held a...
Negative Emotions > Various Emotions > Fears
A student from Hong Kong had been very ill with kidney problems. She often found herself frightened at night-time and unable to sleep. She had dreamt three times that she had been fired from her job, that she was vomiting, and that there were...
Negative Emotions > Various Emotions > Fears
A student was afraid of flying. Rinpoche gave the following advice.
Negative Emotions > Various Emotions > Fears
A German woman had had a fear of snakes since she was a child. At the age of nine, she saw a smashed snake in her parents’ garden, and a woman in Germany, who was clairvoyant but not Buddhist, told her that in a former life she had destroyed...
Negative Emotions > Delusions > Pride
A student expressed concerns about feeling pride when she helped others.
Negative Emotions > Delusions > Pride
A student in Wisconsin, USA, wrote the following to Rinpoche: “I would like advice. My mind becomes overwhelmed with pride again and again. I would like to prevent it, but I don’t know how.”
Negative Emotions > Various Emotions > Other Emotions
A monk commented to Rinpoche that people tended to avoid him, and didn’t want to be with him. Rinpoche gave the following advice.
Negative Emotions > Various Emotions > Other Emotions
A student was experiencing jealousy and criticism from others around her.
Family and Relationships > Marriage and Divorce > Marriage
Two of Rinpoche’s students were getting married and holding their exchange of vows at a Dharma center in California. Rinpoche wrote these suggestions for how to conduct the marriage ceremony.
Family and Relationships > Marriage and Divorce > Separation and Divorce
A student wanted to divorce her husband, but she was afraid of the negative karma this might generate, so she went to Rinpoche to ask whether divorce creates negative karma or not.
Family and Relationships > Marriage and Divorce > Separation and Divorce
A group of doctors came to see Rinpoche, and one of them raised the topic of dealing with divorce. Here is what Rinpoche said.
Family and Relationships > Marriage and Divorce > Separation and Divorce
The following advice was given to a student in Singapore, who was extremely upset and depressed for months after breaking up with a close partner of ten years.
Family and Relationships > Having a Baby > Abortion
When a pregnant woman sought Rinpoche’s advice on having an abortion, Rinpoche responded with the following advice.
Family and Relationships > Having a Baby > The Purpose of Having a Baby
A student asked Rinpoche about whether to have a child or not.
Family and Relationships > Having a Baby > The Purpose of Having a Baby
A student in Hong Kong was wondering whether to have a child or not.
Family and Relationships > Having a Baby > The Purpose of Having a Baby
A Taiwanese student had been married more than 12 years, but had not been able to have any children. She told Rinpoche that she and her husband loved each other very much, and had been examined and tested, and, according to Western medicine,...
Family and Relationships > Having a Baby > The Purpose of Having a Baby
Rinpoche sent the following letter to a student who had recently had a baby.
Family and Relationships > Children > Practices for Children
Rinpoche suggested this outline as a daily practice for a group of children in Australia.
