Becoming Your Own Therapist
An Introduction to the Buddhist Way of Thought
Lama Thubten Yeshe
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First published in 1998, this booklet contains three
public talks by Lama Yeshe on the general topic of Buddhism.
Each lecture is followed by a question and answer session.
Lama and his audiences always enjoyed the give and take
of these lively exchanges, and pretty much anything
went. Although these talks were called lectures, Lama
would have each of us use them as a mirror for our minds
and look beyond the words, find ourselves, and become
our own psychologist.
See here for more information
about translations of this text, and for links to listen
to this lecture online.
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Index
Chapter Three - A Glimpse of Buddhist Psychology
The study of Buddhism is not a dry, intellectual undertaking
or the skeptical analysis of some religious, philosophical
doctrine. On the contrary, when you study Dharma and learn
how to meditate, you are the main topic; you are mainly interested
in your own mind, your own true nature.
Buddhism is a method for controlling the undisciplined mind
in order to lead it from suffering to happiness. At the moment,
we all have an undisciplined mind, but if we can develop a
correct understanding of its characteristic nature, control
will follow naturally and we’ll be able to release emotional
ignorance and the suffering it brings automatically. Therefore,
no matter whether you are a believer or a non-believer, religious
or not religious, a Christian, a Hindu, or a scientist, black
or white, an Easterner or a Westerner, the most important
thing to know is your own mind and how it works.
If you don’t know your own mind, your misconceptions will
prevent you from seeing reality. Even though you might say
you’re a practitioner of this or that religion, if you investigate
more deeply, you might find that you are nowhere. Be careful.
No religion is against your knowing your own nature, but all
too frequently religious people involve themselves too much
in their religion’s history, philosophy or doctrine and ignore
how and what they themselves are, their present state of being.
Instead of using their religion to attain its goals—salvation,
liberation, inner freedom, eternal happiness and joy—they
play intellectual games with their religion, as if it were
a material possession.
Without understanding how your inner nature evolves, how
can you possibly discover eternal happiness? Where is eternal
happiness? It’s not in the sky or in the jungle; you won’t
find it in the air or under the ground. Everlasting happiness
is within you, within your psyche, your consciousness, your
mind. That’s why it is so important that you investigate the
nature of your own mind.
If the religious theory that you learn does not serve to
bring happiness and joy into your everyday life, what’s the
point? Even though you say, “I’m a practitioner of this or
that religion,” check what you’ve done, how you’ve acted,
and what you’ve discovered since you’ve been following it.
And don’t be afraid to question yourself in detail. Your own
experience is good. It is essential to question everything
you do, otherwise, how do you know what you’re doing? As I’m
sure you know already, blind faith in any religion can never
solve your problems.
Many people are lackadaisical about their spiritual practice.
“It’s easy. I go to church every week. That’s enough for me.”
That’s not the answer. What’s the purpose of your religion?
Are you getting the answers you need or is your practice simply
a joke? You have to check. I’m not putting anybody down, but
you have to be sure of what you’re doing. Is your practice
perverted, polluted by hallucination, or is it realistic?
If your path teaches you to act and exert yourself correctly
and leads to spiritual realizations such as love, compassion
and wisdom, then obviously it’s worthwhile. Otherwise, you’re
just wasting your time.
The mental pollution of misconceptions is far more dangerous
than drugs. Wrong ideas and faulty practice get deeply rooted
in your mind, build up during your life, and accompany your
mind into the next one. That is much more dangerous than some
physical substance.
All of us, the religious and the non-religious, Easterner
and Westerner alike, want to be happy. Everybody seeks happiness,
but are you looking in the right place? Perhaps happiness
is here but you’re looking there. Make sure you seek happiness
where it can be found.
We consider Lord Buddha’s teaching to be more akin to psychology
and philosophy than to what you might usually imagine religion
to be. Many people seem to think that religion is mostly a
question of belief, but if your religious practice relies
mainly on faith, sometimes one skeptical question from a friend—“What
on earth are you doing?”—can shatter it completely: “Oh my
god! Everything I’ve been doing is wrong.” Therefore, before
you commit yourself to any spiritual path, make sure you know
exactly what you’re doing.
Buddhist psychology teaches that emotional attachment to
the sense world results from physical and mental feelings.
Your five senses provide information to your mind, producing
various feelings, all of which can be classified into three
groups: pleasant, unpleasant and neutral. These feelings arise
in response to either physical or mental stimuli.
When we experience pleasant feelings, emotional attachment
ensues, and when that pleasant feeling subsides, craving arises,
the desire to experience it again. The nature of this mind
is dissatisfaction; it disturbs our mental peace because its
nature is agitation. When we experience unpleasant feelings,
we automatically dislike and want to get rid of them; aversion
arises, again disturbing our mental peace. When we feel neutral,
we ignore what’s going on and don’t want to see reality. Thus,
whatever feelings arise in our daily lives—pleasant, unpleasant
or neutral—they disturb us emotionally and there’s no balance
or equanimity in our minds.
So, examining your own feelings in this way has nothing
to do with belief, has it? This is not some Eastern, Himalayan
mountain thing. This is you; this is your thing. You can’t
refute what I’m saying by claiming, “I have no feelings.”
It’s so simple, isn’t it?
Furthermore, many of our negative actions are reactions
to feeling. See for yourself. When you feel pleasant as a
result of contact with people or other sense objects, analyze
exactly how you feel, why you feel pleasant. The pleasant
feeling is not in the external object, is it? It’s in your
mind. I’m sure we can all agree that the pleasant feeling
is not outside of you. So, why do you feel that way? If you
experiment like this, you will discover that happiness and
joy, discomfort and unhappiness, and neutral feelings are
all within you. You will find that you yourself are mainly
responsible for the feelings you experience and that you cannot
blame others for the way you feel: “He makes me miserable;
she makes me miserable; that stuff makes me miserable.” You
cannot blame society for your problems, although that’s what
we always do, isn’t it? It’s not realistic.
Once you realize the true evolution of your mental problems,
you’ll never blame any other living being for how you feel.
That realization is the beginning of good communication with
and respect for others. Normally, we’re unconscious; we act
unconsciously and automatically disrespect and hurt others.
We don’t care; we just do it, that’s all.
Many people, even some psychologists, seem to think that
you can stop the emotion of craving-desire by feeding it with
some object or other: if you’re suffering because your husband
or wife has left you, getting another one will solve your
problem. That’s impossible. Without understanding the characteristic
nature of your feelings of pleasant, unpleasant and neutral,
you will never discover the nature of your mental attitudes,
and without discovering that, you can never put an end to
your emotional problems.
For instance, Buddhism says you should feel compassion and
love for all living beings. How can you possibly feel even
equanimity for all beings while the ignorant, dualistic mind
is functioning so strongly within you? You can’t, because
emotionally you are too extreme. When you feel happy because
a pleasant feeling has arisen through contact with a particular
object, you grossly exaggerate what you consider to be the
good qualities of that object, inflating your emotions as
much as you possibly can. But you know that your mind can’t
stay up like that. It’s impermanent, transitory, so of course,
you soon crash back down. Then, automatically, your unbalanced
mind gets de-pressed. You have to understand exactly how much
energy you expend in pursuit of or in flight from mental feelings.
We are always too extreme; we have to find the middle way.
If you look a little deeper, you will also find that feelings
are responsible for all the conflict in the world. From two
small children fighting over a piece of candy to two huge
nations fighting over their very existence, what are they
fighting for? For pleasant feelings. Even children too young
to speak will fight because they want to feel happy.
Through meditation you can easily see the truth of all this.
Meditation reveals everything that’s in your mind; all your
garbage, all your positivity; everything can be seen through
meditation. But don’t think that meditation means just sitting
on the floor in the lotus position doing nothing. Being conscious,
aware of everything that you do—walking, eating, drinking,
talking—is meditation. The sooner you realize this, the quicker
will you realize that you yourself are responsible for your
actions, that you yourself are responsible for the happy feelings
you want and the unhappy feelings you don’t, and that nobody
else controls you.
When a pleasant feeling arises and then, as is its nature,
subsides, causing you to feel frustrated because you want
it again, that’s not created by God, Krishna, Buddha or any
other outside entity. Your own actions are responsible. Isn’t
that easy to see? The weak mind thinks, “Oh, he made me sick,
she makes me feel horrible.” That’s the weak mind at work,
always trying to blame somebody or something else. Actually,
I think that examining your everyday life experiences to see
how your physical and mental feelings arise is a wonderful
thing to do. You’re learning all the time; there’s no such
time that you’re not learning. In that way, through the application
of your own know-ledge-wisdom, you will discover that the
realization of everlasting peace and joy is within you. Unfortunately,
the weak mind doesn’t possess much knowledge-wisdom energy;
you have to nurture that energy within your own mind.
Why does Mahayana Buddhism teach us to develop a feeling
of equanimity for all sentient beings? We often choose just
one small thing, one small atom, one single living being,
thinking, “This is the one for me; this is the best.” Thus,
we create extremes of value: we grossly exaggerate the value
of the one we like and engender disdain for all the rest.
This is not good for you, for your mental peace. Instead,
you should examine your behavior, “Why am I doing this? My
unrealistic, egocentric mind is polluting my consciousness.”
Then, by meditating on equanimity—all sentient beings are
exactly the same in wanting happiness and not desiring suffering—you
can learn to eliminate the extremes of tremendous attachment
to one and tremendous aversion to the other. In this way you
can easily keep your mind balanced and healthy. Many people
have had this experience.
Therefore, Lord Buddha’s psychology can be of great help
when you’re trying to deal with the frustrations that disturb
your daily life. Remember that when pleasant feelings arise,
desire, craving and attachment follow in their wake; when
unpleasant feelings arise, aversion and hatred appear; and
when you feel neutral, ignorance, blindness to reality, occupies
your mind. If, through these teachings, you can learn the
reality of how your feelings arise and how you react to them,
your life will be much improved and you will experience much
happiness, peace and joy.
Are there any questions?
Q: Buddhism always talks about karma. What is it?
Lama: Karma is your experiences of body and mind.
The word itself is Sanskrit; it means cause and effect. Your
experiences of mental and physical happiness or unhappiness
are the effects of certain causes, but those effects themselves
become the cause of future results. One action produces a
reaction; that is karma. Both Eastern philosophies and science
explain that all matter is inter-related; if you can understand
that, you will understand how karma works. All existence,
internal and external, does not come about accidentally; the
energy of all internal and external phenomena is interdependent.
For example, your body’s energy is related to the energy of
your parents’ bodies; their bodies’ energy is related to their
parents’ bodies, and so forth. That sort of evolution is karma.
Q: What is nirvana and do many people attain
it?
Lama: When you develop your powers of concentration
such that you can integrate your mind into single-pointed
concentration, you will gradually diminish your ego’s emotional
reactions until they disappear altogether. At that point,
you transcend your ego and discover an everlasting, blissful,
peaceful state of mind. That is what we call nirvana. Many
people have attained this state and many more are well on
their way to it.
Q: In nirvana, do you cease to exist in a bodily
form; does the person disappear?
Lama: No, you still have a form, but it doesn’t have
an uncontrolled nervous system like the one we have now. And
don’t worry, when you attain nirvana you still exist, but
in a state of perfect happiness. So, try hard to reach it
as soon as possible.
Q: Didn’t Buddha say that he would never be reborn
once he had attained nirvana?
Lama: Perhaps, but what did he mean? He meant that
he would not take an uncontrolled rebirth impelled by the
energy force of ego, which is the way we samsaric sentient
beings are reborn. Instead, he can reincarnate with perfect
control, his only purpose being to help mother sentient beings.
Q: You spoke a lot about pleasure and happiness,
and I am trying to get clear in my mind the distinction between
the two. Are they the same? Can one become attached to pleasure
but not to happiness?
Lama: They’re the same thing and we get attached
to both. What we should aim for is the experience of pleasure
without attachment; we should enjoy our feelings of happiness
while understanding the nature of the subject, our mind, the
object, and our feelings. Someone who has reached nirvana
is able to do this.
Q: I would like to clarify the Buddhist meaning of
meditation. Am I right in interpreting it as “observing the
passage of your mind”?
Lama: Yes, you can think of it that way. As I said
before, Buddhist meditation doesn’t necessarily mean sitting
cross-legged with your eyes closed. Simply observing how your
mind is responding to the sense world as you go about your
business—walking, talking, shopping, whatever—can be a really
perfect meditation and bring a perfect result.
Q: With respect to rebirth, what is it that is reborn?
Lama: When you die, your consciousness separates
from your body, enters the intermediate state, and from there
it is born into another physical form. We call that rebirth.
Physical and mental energy are different from each other.
Physical energy is extremely limited, but mental energy always
has continuity.
Q: Is it possible for the consciousness to develop
in the after-death state or is it only in life that consciousness
can evolve?
Lama: During the death process, your consciousness
keeps flowing, just like electricity, which comes from the
generator but flows continually through different houses,
different appliances and so forth, occupying different things.
So, it is possible for the consciousness to develop in the
intermediate state.
Q: So the mind does not need a physical body to develop?
Lama: Well, there is an intermediate state body,
but it’s not like ours; it’s a very light, psychic body.
Q: When you recite mantras, do you ever concentrate
on any of the body’s physical organs or do you focus only
on your mind? Can you concentrate on your chakras, or energy
centers?
Lama: It’s possible, but you have to remember that
there are different methods for different purposes. Don’t
think that Lord Buddha taught only one thing. Buddhism contains
thousands upon thousands, perhaps even countless, methods
of meditation, all given in order to suit the varying propensities
and dispositions of the infinite individual living beings.
Q: Is the consciousness that develops during our
life and leaves when we die a part of some supreme consciousness?
Like God or universal consciousness?
Lama: No, it’s a very ordinary, simple mind and is
in direct continuity with the mind you have right now. The
difference is that it has separated from your body and is
seeking another. This intermediate state mind is under the
control of karma, and is agitated, conflicted and confused.
There’s no way you can call it higher or supreme.
Q: Are you familiar with the Hindu concepts of atman
and brahman?
Lama: While Hindu philosophy accepts the idea of
a soul [atman], Buddhism does not. We completely deny the
existence of a self-existent I, or a permanent, independent
soul. Every aspect of your body and mind is impermanent: changing,
changing, changing.... Buddhists also deny the existence of
a permanent hell. Every pain, every pleasure we experience
is in a state of constant flux; so transitory, so impermanent,
always changing, never lasting. Therefore, recognizing the
unsatisfactory nature of our existence and renouncing the
world in which transitory sense objects contact transitory
sense organs to produce transitory feelings, none of which
are worth grasping at, we seek instead the everlasting, eternally
joyful realizations of enlightenment or nirvana.
Q: Do you think ritual is as important to the Western
person trying to practice Buddhism as it is to the Easterner,
who has a feeling for it?
Lama: It depends on what you mean. Actual Buddhist
meditation doesn’t require you to accompany it with material
objects; the only thing that matters is your mind. You don’t
need to ring bells or wave things about. Is that what you
mean by ritual? [Yes.] Good; so, you don’t need to worry,
and that applies equally to the East as it does to the West.
Nevertheless, some people do need these things; different
minds need different methods. For example, you wear glasses.
They’re not the most important thing, but some people need
them. For the same reason, the various world religions teach
various paths according to the individual abilities and levels
of their many and varied followers. Therefore, we cannot say,
“This is the one true way. Everybody should follow my path.”
Q: Are new methods of practice required in the West
today?
Lama: No. No new methods are required. All the methods
are there already, you just need to discover them.
Q: I am trying to understand the relationship in
Buddhism between the mind and the body. Is mind more important
than body? For example, in the case of tantric monks who do
overtone chanting, obviously they develop a part of their
body in order to sing, so just how important is the body?
Lama: The mind is the most important thing, but there
are some meditation practices that are enhanced by certain
physical yoga exercises. Conversely, if your body is sick,
that can affect your mind. So, it’s also important to keep
your body healthy. But if you concern yourself with only the
physical and neglect to investigate the reality of your own
mind, that’s not wise either; it’s unbalanced, not realistic.
So, I think we all agree that the mind is more important than
the body, but at the same time, we cannot forget about the
body altogether. I’ve seen Westerners come to the East for
teachings, and when they hear about Tibetan yogis living in
the high mountains without food they think, “Oh, fantastic!
I want to be just like Milarepa.” That’s a mistake. If you
were born in the West, your body is used to certain specific
conditions, so to keep it healthy, you need to create a conducive
environment. You can’t do a Himalayan trip. Be wise, not extreme.
Q: Is it true that when a human is born his or her
mind is pure and innocent?
Lama: As we all know, when you are born, your mind
is not too occupied by intellectual complications. But as
you get older and start to think, it begins to fill up with
so much information, philosophy, that-this, this is good,
that is bad, I should have this, I shouldn’t have that...you
intellectualize too much, filling your mind with garbage.
That certainly makes your mind much worse. Still, that doesn’t
mean that you were born absolutely pure and that only after
the arrival of the intellect did you become negative. It doesn’t
mean that. Why not? Because if you were fundamentally free
of ignorance and attachment, any garbage coming at you would
not be able to get in. Unfortunately, we’re not like that.
Fundamentally, not only are we wide open to whatever intellectual
garbage comes our way, but we’ve got a big welcome sign out.
So moment by moment, more and more garbage is piling up in
our minds. Therefore, you can’t say that children are born
with absolutely pure minds. It’s wrong. Babies cry because
they have feelings. When an unpleasant feeling arises—perhaps
they’re craving their mother’s milk—they cry.
Q: We have this idea of consciousness transmigrating
from body to body, from life to life, but if there is continuity
of consciousness, why is it that we don’t remember our previous
lives?
Lama: Too much supermarket information crowding into
our minds makes us forget our previous experiences. Even science
says that the brain is limited such that new information suppresses
the old. They say that, but it’s not quite right. What actually
happens is that basically, the human mind is mostly unconscious,
ignorant, and gets so preoccupied with new experiences that
it forgets the old ones. Review the past month: exactly what
happened, precisely what feelings did you have, every day?
You can’t remember, can you? So checking back further, all
the way back to the time when you were just a few cells in
your mother’s womb, then even farther back than that: it’s
very difficult, isn’t it? But if you practice this slowly,
slowly, continuously checking within your mind, eventually
you’ll be able to remember more and more of your previous
experiences. Many of us may have had the experience of reacting
very strangely to something that has happened and being perplexed
by our reaction, which seems not to have been based on any
of this life’s experiences: “That’s weird. Why did I react
like that? I’ve no idea where that came from.” That’s because
it’s based on a previous life’s experience. Modern psychologists
cannot explain such reactions because they don’t understand
mental continuity, the beginningless nature of each individual’s
mind. They don’t understand that mental reactions can result
from impulses that were generated thousands and thousands
of years ago. But if you keep investigating your mind through
meditation, you will eventually understand all this through
your own experience.
Q: Could it be negative to find out about previous
lives? Could it be disturbing?
Lama: Well, it could be either a positive or a negative
experience. If you realize your previous lives, it will be
a positive experience. Disturbance comes from ignorance. You
should try to realize the characteristic nature of negativity.
When you do, the problem’s solved. Understanding the nature
of negativity stops the problems it brings. Therefore, right
understanding is the only solution to both physical and mental
problems. You should always check very carefully how you’re
expending your energy: will it make you happy or not. That’s
a big responsibility, don’t you think? It’s your choice: the
path of wisdom or the path of ignorance.
Q: What is the meaning of suffering?
Lama: Mental agitation is suffering; dissatisfaction
is suffering. Actually, it is very important to understand
the various subtle levels of suffering, otherwise people are
going to say, “Why does Buddhism say everybody’s suffering?
I’m happy.” When Lord Buddha talked about suffering, he didn’t
mean just the pain of a wound or the kind of mental anguish
that we often experience. We say that we’re happy, but if
we check our happiness more closely, we’ll find that there’s
still plenty of dissatisfaction in our minds. From the Buddhist
point of view, simply the fact that we can’t control our minds
is mental suffering; in fact, that’s worse than the various
physical sufferings we experience. Therefore, when Buddhism
talks about suffering, it’s emphasizing the mental level much
more than the physical, and that’s why, in practical terms,
Buddhist teachings are basically applied psychology. Buddhism
teaches the nature of suffering at the mental level and the
methods for its eradication.
Q: Why do we all experience suffering and what do
we learn from it?
Lama: That’s so simple, isn’t it? Why are you suffering?
Because you’re too involved in acting out of ignorance and
grasping with attachment. You learn from suffering by realizing
where it comes from and exactly what it is that makes you
suffer. In our infinite previous lives we have had so many
experiences but we still haven’t learned that much. Many people
think that they’re learning from their experiences, but they’re
not. There are infinite past experiences in their unconscious
but they still know nothing about their own true nature.
Q: Why do we have the opportunity to be attached?
Lama: Because we’re hallucinating; we’re not seeing
the reality of either the subject or the object. When you
understand the nature of an object of attachment, the subjective
mind of attachment automatically disappears. It’s the foggy
mind, the mind that’s attracted to an object and paints a
distorted projection onto it, that makes you suffer. That’s
all. It’s really quite simple.
Q: I’ve seen Tibetan images of wrathful deities,
but although they were fierce-looking, they didn’t look evil.
That made me wonder whether or not Buddhism emphasizes evil
and bad things.
Lama: Buddhism never emphasizes the existence of
external evil. Evil is a projection of your mind. If evil
exists, it’s within you. There’s no outside evil to fear.
Wrathful deities are emanations of enlightened wisdom and
serve to help people who have a lot of uncontrolled anger.
In meditation, the angry person transforms his anger into
wisdom, which is then visualized as a wrathful deity; thus
the energy of his anger is digested by wisdom. Briefly, that’s
how the method works.
Q: What do you feel about a person killing another
person in self-defense? Do you think people have the right
to protect themselves, even at the expense of the aggressor’s
life?
Lama: In most cases of killing in self-defense, it’s
still done out of uncontrolled anger. You should protect yourself
as best you can without killing the other. For example, if
you attack me, I’m responsible to protect myself, but without
killing you.
Q: If killing me was the only way you could stop
me, would you do it?
Lama: Then it would be better that you kill me.
Well, if there are no further questions, I won’t keep you
any longer. Thank you very much for everything.
Christchurch, New Zealand, 14 June 1975
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