Lama Zopa Rinpoche's Online Advice Book
These advices show us how we need to see self-cherishing as the enemy. Everything we do should go toward defeating this inner enemy, and reducing our self-cherishing. This gives space for bodhicitta to grow, and we change our attitude in life from cherishing the “I” to cherishing others.
Instead of jealousy and clinging with attachment to what we desire, Rinpoche emphasizes how we need to learn how to rejoice in others’ happiness. When we enjoy our life, and our mind is happy, we have so much space in our mind to think of others, to cherish and love them.In this section, Rinpoche also looks at how to turn depression around by switching our focus from self to others and how to benefit others. He shows how we can use depression as a meditation to develop renunciation of worldly life, bodhicitta, and the right way of viewing things. This way, we use our depression to be totally free of it forever and it becomes the best Dharma practice, and the best way of healing ourselves.
Rinpoche points out how it is very good to have aversion to anger, helping us to free ourselves from samsara and reach enlightenment quickly.