Family Harmony

Family Harmony

Date of Advice:
October 2016
Date Posted:
June 2018

A student wrote to Rinpoche about family harmony, saying that she had been unable to control her temper.

Lama Zopa Rinpoche writing cards at Buddha Amitabha Pure Land, USA, October 2016. Photo: Holly Ansett.

My most dear, most kind, most precious wish-fulfilling one,
[Recently at Vajrapani Institute] I spoke about how dangerous anger is. That is the first thing. Generally in the mind, we should have the idea that anger is a great danger, worse than an atomic bomb.

An atomic bomb can destroy the world, but anger has been harming us from beginningless lives, causing us to be born in the hell realms, in the lower realms; it has destroyed our merits and delayed our realizations. If we get angry with a bodhisattva, if we don’t have bodhicitta, then one thousand eons of realizations are destroyed—our realizations are delayed and we are reborn in the lower realms.

We can see generally that having anger is very harmful, it is our worst enemy. It has been harming us from beginningless rebirths and harming all sentient beings from beginningless rebirths. Even atomic bombs don’t do that, they only destroy the world.

I spoke at Vajrapani Institute recently about this. In my talk there are quotations from A Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life, especially on how to use our problems to arise compassion for the enemy. It would be good for you to try to get the transcript or video and really study this.

For harmony at home, have the eight auspicious symbols in the house—not only one, but as many as possible. This brings harmony to the family and stops inauspiciousness.

For practice, the best thing is to recite OM MANI PADME HUM. This has more than skies of merits and is the easy way, the quickest way, to be reborn in the pure land. From there we never get reborn in the lower realms, so this is the quickest way to achieve enlightenment. There is nothing more important in our life than reciting OM MANI PADME HUM. In Tibet they are doing this all the time—beggars on the street and  people who are shopping, walking, doing their job and so forth. To recite this mantra with bodhicitta—wow, wow, wow—you must know there is nothing more important than that.

For success, recite the Medicine Buddha mantra and the seven Medicine Buddha names. For sure, this is unbelievably, unbelievably, unbelievably powerful. These two things you can do for sure.

With much love and prayers ...