The Self-cherishing Thought Is the Real Enemy

The Self-cherishing Thought Is the Real Enemy

Date of Advice:
April 2021
Date Posted:
May 2023

Rinpoche advised that the benefits of bodhicitta are limitless like the sky, in this letter sent to a student who was sick, hearing strange noises and experiencing pain and suffering.

Lama Zopa Rinpoche at the Light of the Path Retreat, USA, 2014. Photo: Roy Harvey.

This is my very important message and very important practice advice to you; it is bodhicitta, destroying the self-cherishing thought.

The self-cherishing thought has been our own real enemy from beginningless rebirths. It has caused us to suffer from beginningless rebirths, experiencing the oceans of suffering of the hell beings, the oceans of suffering of the hungry ghosts, the oceans of animals’ suffering, the oceans of human beings’ suffering, the oceans of suffering of the sura beings, asura beings and preta beings. From beginningless rebirths the self-cherishing thought has caused us to suffer.

But of course, without even having studied the lamrim, we have no idea about the suffering of the lower realms, and no idea of even the gods, the desire realms, the form realm gods or the formless realms gods. We have no idea of their suffering, the different levels of suffering, then also there is the desire realm suffering—the suffering of pain, the suffering of change and pervasive compounding suffering.

The form realm gods do not have the suffering of pain, but Geshe Sopa says they have the suffering of change. The formless realm beings do not have the suffering of change, so what they have is the third type of suffering, pervasive compounding suffering, which is the basis of the other two sufferings.

Without reading the lamrim we won’t get the feeling, even without studying the sutras, so we will not even get a rough idea. We just say “suffering” but we don’t really feel that in our heart if we don’t know first how it is explained in the lamrim.

All the sufferings now, and the causes of samsaric suffering, make us suffer continuously. If we continue to follow self-cherishing thought, the real enemy, it will continuously make us suffer without end. There is no beginning, it’s beginningless, but there will also be no end to our suffering in samsara. If we follow the self-cherishing thought, there will be no end to our suffering in samsara. Unbelievable, unbelievable, most unbelievable!

People in the world don’t know this because they haven’t met Dharma and they don’t know Dharma, so then they have no idea. They are only thinking of this life. Even this life they don’t understand well. They don't think of the suffering of their future lives, therefore they use whoever they can, particularly animals. They use others like a handkerchief or a napkin, something that is just thrown away.

Lama khyen! So much suffering, they cause so much suffering, like for pigs in the world or the fish and chickens. Some animals are eaten while they are still alive, such as octopus. I saw this many times, how many animals are eaten alive.

Lama khyen! Lama khyen! Lama khyen! Some people completely use the animals like tissue paper, just as human beings use tissue paper. Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. They even know the animals are suffering, but still they use them like tissue paper.

Anyway, the self-cherishing thought is really, really, the real enemy. Wow, wow. We think it is our best friend and we always serve the self-cherishing thought; we serve it like a guru, or like a king or like a parent. We totally serve the self-cherishing thought. Even for those of us who are sometimes practicing Dharma, it is for the self-cherishing thought.

Not only that, the self-cherishing thought made us harm numberless hell beings, numberless hungry ghosts, numberless animals, numberless human beings, numberless sura beings, numberless asura beings, numberless intermediate state beings, every sentient being from beginningless rebirth, with no beginning. Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow.

We are just one sentient being, but we see others are numberless. We feel, “Someone is so bad to me; how I suffer is so bad.” But there are numberless sentient beings, wow, wow, wow, wow. There are even numberless hell beings and in each realm there are numberless beings. The self-cherishing thought made us harm the numberless, numberless, numberless beings, everyone. Not just one time, but numberless times from beginningless rebirth. This is the worst thing, the most terrible thing.

So now, this harm that we are receiving, think that this is most precious, most precious, more precious than wish-granting jewels. In the past the bodhisattvas found this jewel in the ocean and cleaned it three ways and put it on a banner on the fifteenth day. Then whatever they needed, like the needs of this life, they prayed for that, then they got it immediately. Just as Sai Baba [appeared] able to produce watches and things, then most people got ashes.

It is like that with a wish-granting jewel, we make a prayer then it is actualized the next minute. So how many helicopters we want, how many swimming pools we want, how many hotels we want, how many comforts we want—we get that immediately. Not just one wish-fulfilling jewel, but numberless, filling the whole sky. So this unpleasant thing we are experiencing, what we have been believing is bothering us, is more precious than that. Now we can see how it is so precious. We can use it as an atomic bomb to destroy the self-cherishing thought. To destroy our enemy, the self-cherishing thought.

It is the self-cherishing thought that has caused all our sufferings from beginningless rebirth, now and in the future, endlessly. Not only that, it has also caused us to harm all the sentient beings from beginningless rebirths. So that means when sentient beings harm us, it is the result of having harmed sentient beings before. Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow.

So we should give this unpleasant thing to the self-cherishing thought, to destroy the self-cherishing thought, bomb it. If we are able to destroy the self-cherishing thought, then comes bodhicitta. Only then is there a place for bodhicitta in our mind. Otherwise, bodhicitta is like the horn on the rabbit, it is like a horn on our head. It is like a billion dollars in our hand. It is like a hair growing on the turtle’s backside, so it is like that.

Bodhicitta comes from destroying the self-cherishing thought, and this is then what comes, bodhicitta, jang chub sem. When jang chub sem comes, that is the root of the path to enlightenment—wishing to free each sentient being, the numberless sentient beings, each sentient being, from the oceans of samsaric suffering and bring them to enlightenment, peerless happiness.

Therefore, this suffering is so precious, more precious than wish-granting jewels. Even if we own so many wish-granting jewels, that doesn’t cause us to be free from the lower realms, that doesn’t cause us to be free from samsara, that doesn’t cause us to be free from lower nirvana, so that doesn’t cause us to achieve enlightenment.

But this one, destroying the self-cherishing thought, from that we can actualize bodhicitta. Wow, wow, wow, wow. The benefits of bodhicitta are like the sky, limitless. If buddhas talk about bodhicitta, they cannot finish explaining it.

So this is how we should think—that it is so precious, unbelievably precious. For us, it is unbelievably precious, because it can destroy the self-cherishing thought. We should think that instead of thinking that the self-cherishing thought is our best friend, like a god. We don’t say it’s a god, but we follow it like a god. We [don’t] say from the mouth, "God, god, god,” but in reality, the self-cherishing thought is like a god. We follow everything that the self-cherishing wants. If somebody disturbs the self-cherishing thought, then we kill them, we chop them, like chili, we do everything bad that we can to hurt them.

So you can think that this unpleasant thing that you are experiencing—I am using this as an example for you, but for other people, there are other problems. We can use that problem as most precious; we should see it as the most precious, most precious one.

Why is the obstacle so precious? Why? It is because we are experiencing it for all the sentient beings; we are experiencing this problem for all the sentient beings. Numberless sentient beings have this problem, so we are experiencing it for them. This is so precious because we are experiencing it for them. Then think that they become free from suffering in samsara and achieve enlightenment.

That’s why this is so precious, precious, precious for us. So then, we can use this for any problem we have. The real problem is the self-cherishing thought. The self-cherishing thought becomes like a god, it becomes our best friend, forever, in the morning and at night, all the time, constantly; the self-cherishing thought is close and we totally rely on that. Therefore, that is the biggest problem; that is the biggest enemy.

Why is there this problem? Because of the self-cherishing thought.

This practice may be hard for very new people, it might be difficult to understand, but for older students, this is exactly what they have to practice. Whatever disease, cancer, spirit harm, black magic, anything we have, we can think in this way.

Thank you very much. You have pain, so this advice is the same.

Please, please, please, life is very short and we can die anytime. We can die anytime. By this time next year, our consciousness may be somewhere else and our body will be already burned. By this time next month or next week or even tomorrow, now here, even today or tomorrow, we can be on the firewood, with the body burned. Then other people are scared to come, even our friends who liked us very much, who came to see us before, who do not want to be separated from us. Even they will be scared to come close to this body, this corpse.

Dharma practice is for all the time because the mind is continuous, not only beginningless but also endless. Whether we have a happy life or a suffering life in the future depends on karma. However, because we like only happiness and do not like suffering, what we need is only Dharma practice, not nonvirtue. So not only the four noble truths, the Lesser Vehicle path, but also the Mahayana path to achieve enlightenment, then on the basis of that we can be free from samsara. Then on the basis of Mahayana sutra [we practice] Mahayana tantra, then we can achieve enlightenment in one life. [Practicing] Highest Yoga Tantra, we can achieve enlightenment in one brief lifetime of these degenerate times.

You have received so many teachings, even from His Holiness the Dalai Lama—wow, wow, wow—and also from other qualified other teachers. Wow, wow, wow. Thank you very much. 

Maybe what you are experiencing is spirit harm.

There was somebody who had similar spirit harm. That person could hear a sound all the time, like someone talking. She had this sound, then when she traveled to another country the language she could hear also changed. So that was from spirit harm; they can do like this. She had it for quite a long time.

There is another nun who was going to do shinä; she wanted to achieve shinä, but then this sound came. The sound was an obstacle, like the huge noise of water running, like a river, and it became an obstacle for shinä. Shinä is not easy and if you do not have much merit, then many obstacles arise. So this had been happening for a long time for her. Therefore, I told her to write out sutras in gold instead, using real gold, writing the Prajnaparamita to create the cause for shinä.

I did some prayers for you, but you also need to read the Vajra Cutter Sutra five times.

When we experience bad things, we think it’s very bad, but in reality, it is very good. It means our past lives’ negative karmas get purified by experiencing this now. So then, we don’t have to be born in the hell realms, the lower realms, and suffer for eons, for such a long time. That is the heaviest, the worst, the most painful suffering, for such a long time, for eons.

So that experience is due to our Dharma practice, the power of our Dharma practice, like bodhicitta. When we experience [sickness, spirit harm and so forth] in this life, then the karma gets finished, so we don’t have to be reborn in the lower realms and suffer for eons and eons. Then our future life is like the sun shining in the world, then we have so much happiness, happiness, happiness, wow, wow, wow, from life to life, and then we go to enlightenment.

Kadampa Geshe Kharag Gomchung said:

Even just this small suffering
Finishes our past bad karmas and causes happiness in future lives.
Don’t look at the suffering as negative.
Rejoice; be happy with the suffering.

Thank you very much. Wow, wow, wow.

With much love and prayers ...